Authentic Nights

Photo taken from Sam Johnson's Instagram

I am all about the music today :-p, I attended my first reggae show this past Saturday and I will admit I did not expect to be as impressed as I was.  The venue was at the Mezzanine in San Francisco and the main act was an artist named FIJI  but the show was kicked off by Sam Johnson. His performance was amazing his voice surprised me, I went there with an open mind because I don't know that much about Reggae. Sam isn't a reggae artist  hence why I didn't expect what he gave, the best way for you to find out what his sound is for you to listen to the guy.  Follow the link and enjoy Sam Johnson - Time Machine

I was outside when the second act performed but I could hear a bit of the performance and they sounded fresh. I felt like I was being introduced to a different side of music on this night. When FIJI came on stage the crowd went insane everyone obviously loved him. I can sometimes over think situations so its no surprise that when I saw that man on stage I was reminded how the words I CANT shouldn't be part of a proactive persons vocabulary.

Follow both artists on instagram Sam Johnson - @samjohnsonband
Fiji -  @f1j1

Square One.....

Excuse my sappiness but this song has been on repeat since Friday afternoon, Jessie's Square One. I listened to this and thought of a friend of mine going through the exact situation she is singing about. Then I listened to it again because in someway I related to what she was saying as well, I wish the was an acoustic version of this song. Jessie J - Square One live click on the link and listen.

Courageous Fay

Its been a while since I last posted and I have had so much going on that I wasn't sure what to post about first. This was until I went through my pictures and was reminded of a fear I over came. Those who have read any of my previous posts will know about the scars I have on my thigh and my foot. They are part of me but for the longest time I have not been able to own it. By own it I mean wear what I like with the greatest confidence. Wearing a bikini was actually the one thing I'd told myself I would never do BUT as you can see the above picture shows me in a bikini.

I was at my friend Nicole's house and this girl always has a bikini in her car even on a cold day lol.... So it was no surprise when she said we going to the beach and her next words were "your wearing a bikini". I cannot explain the thoughts that flooded my mind about how ridiculous I would look and how people would stare. Was I ready for that??? Of-course not BUT I have one amazing friend she kept telling me how I needed to own my scars. So I did and I put the bikini on and it took some courage to take the shorts I was wearing off when we got to the beach. I was uncomfortable at first but then I just told myself that I needed to have fun. This is my adventure and if I wasn't willing to step out of my comfort zone and be proactive then I am defined by my fears.

I am not one that likes to be controlled and I wasn't going to left Fear keep driving me. I gained more self confidence on this day although it was hard. This was a battle I was having with myself, if you look at how I am posing you'll see that I am hiding my left foot. It is because I have grown accustomed to hiding my foot but I am working on stopping this. The scar on my thigh doesn't look visible in this picture but in person it is. I always say this but now I know your imperfections make you beautiful 

Catching The Sunset

I have been blessed to find two of the most amazing friends Nichole and Michal time spent with these two together and individually is always great. On this day Michal invited Nix and I to a family friends beach house. We walked in and we had no words just to let you know we always have something to say but walking in and seeing this view ( picture below). This made us speechless...

Sunsets are one of my favorite things, I love how the colours are reflected on the sea water and walking into a house with floor to ceiling windows was a dream. I want to one day own a beach house and being here solidified that goal. We sat outside enjoyed a glass of wine, some Mac Donalds and the perfect sunset. The pacific is cold whether your in it our just near it and because of that we went indoors. The first song we listened to was Kanye West - Power that got the night started. We got TURNT and even made use of the amazing hot tub

No night is complete without group selfies, the gratitude I feel for having these two in my life is over flowing. We don't often meet people who will allow you to be yourself without judgment and the 3 of us have that. We will eventually go our separate ways but the bond is something I think will remain. Catching the sunset is a beautiful thing but on this day doing it with them with a glass of Chardonnay was special. We are going to miss you so much Mikey we love you :).

Pastel Fashion

If you have read any of my past posts you'll know I have a few obsessions well the is a new addition to my fashion addiction family. Pastel colours are my new love I think Fashion is what you make it. Make it your own and own the look that's what style is all about. Warm weather fashion is synonymous with playful neons and bold jewel tones for me.

Wearing the pretty pale shades head-to-toe is unmistakably feminine, but it's also refreshingly au courant. I never used to be all girly but once my fashion sense evolved my tastes changed so for me pastels makes a style statement that's soft and girly and awesome. From oversized blazers and sexy pencil skirts to tailored blouses and chic cropped jackets, pastel clothes are fashionable, not infantile. 

Think lady-like stilettoes with pointed toes, knee-length hemlines, dainty florals, hats and classic purses. Try pairing jackets and flowing dresses for day wear, skirts and soft blouses for the office, or structured trousers and a floral-print bustier for the evening. Experiment with fabric textures; soft feathers, light felts, flowing organza, structured linen and layers of lace upon silk make for the most classic yet sophisticated take on the pastel trend. Add a modern twist with over-sized sun glasses or practical ballet flats to truly emphasise this girly shade. This style is all about being daring with feminine beauty and embracing the true female form; and it’s a good excuse to be overly chic!

The Boyfriend Jean

How is it that they name the most comfortable,  adaptable and stylish pair of jeans after a boyfriend? Maybe because it gives us everything we want in a real boyfriend lol. Besides the cuddles and kisses anyway when these first came out I hated how baggy they looked on me. Then I realized how great they were because I could dress them up with a fitted top and high heel sandals. Sometimes I just wore my high top sneakers and they still worked.

We all have to admit we have a love affair with out jeans and the boyfriend Jean for me is my favorite because I can be adventures.  The versatility they give make dressing up fun and Unrestricted. They flatter with crop tops, get cozy with turtlenecks and the classic white shirt.

They may have been named because of their baggy fit but trust me their this season's trusted go to. My border - line obsession with torn jeans comes through here because even with this pair I needed one that was torn.

Cowards Don't Inherit Kingdoms

So recently I have become an observer, I used to be the girl who would voice out when I felt someones partner was being unjust towards them. I quickly learnt that many don't want you telling them anything negative about their relationship. I think its because it is either they know and choose to over look it or they just plainly do not want an opinion on what they have already made their made up on.

Many make an excuse or say "He loves me but he just has alot going on" or "She was brought up by a single mom so she needs her independence". Why cant we call a thing a thing? Why do many of us both male and female give away the keys to our Kingdoms to cowards who do not deal with themselves?.  I define a coward as a person who knows they have a  problem but choose to avoid facing it, fixing it or working through it. They are so deep into their own denial that they are willing to hurt the people they "love", it is difficult loving someone who has walls up.

You try and break them but its like a war zone. The best thing to do is move on because it doesn't matter what you do, you cannot change them. They have to change on their own, to the women who is emotionally abused you are someones queen. To the brother who suffers through being put down by his woman, the is a queen who is willing to celebrate your manhood. 

We want to commit to people who will end up changing us into bitter people, people who will find negativity in the good of others because we envy them. Your inner man is shouting to be let free of the gated walls he is in, do not let a coward inherit what you have built.