Catching The Sunset

I have been blessed to find two of the most amazing friends Nichole and Michal time spent with these two together and individually is always great. On this day Michal invited Nix and I to a family friends beach house. We walked in and we had no words just to let you know we always have something to say but walking in and seeing this view ( picture below). This made us speechless...

Sunsets are one of my favorite things, I love how the colours are reflected on the sea water and walking into a house with floor to ceiling windows was a dream. I want to one day own a beach house and being here solidified that goal. We sat outside enjoyed a glass of wine, some Mac Donalds and the perfect sunset. The pacific is cold whether your in it our just near it and because of that we went indoors. The first song we listened to was Kanye West - Power that got the night started. We got TURNT and even made use of the amazing hot tub

No night is complete without group selfies, the gratitude I feel for having these two in my life is over flowing. We don't often meet people who will allow you to be yourself without judgment and the 3 of us have that. We will eventually go our separate ways but the bond is something I think will remain. Catching the sunset is a beautiful thing but on this day doing it with them with a glass of Chardonnay was special. We are going to miss you so much Mikey we love you :).

Pastel Fashion

If you have read any of my past posts you'll know I have a few obsessions well the is a new addition to my fashion addiction family. Pastel colours are my new love I think Fashion is what you make it. Make it your own and own the look that's what style is all about. Warm weather fashion is synonymous with playful neons and bold jewel tones for me.

Wearing the pretty pale shades head-to-toe is unmistakably feminine, but it's also refreshingly au courant. I never used to be all girly but once my fashion sense evolved my tastes changed so for me pastels makes a style statement that's soft and girly and awesome. From oversized blazers and sexy pencil skirts to tailored blouses and chic cropped jackets, pastel clothes are fashionable, not infantile. 

Think lady-like stilettoes with pointed toes, knee-length hemlines, dainty florals, hats and classic purses. Try pairing jackets and flowing dresses for day wear, skirts and soft blouses for the office, or structured trousers and a floral-print bustier for the evening. Experiment with fabric textures; soft feathers, light felts, flowing organza, structured linen and layers of lace upon silk make for the most classic yet sophisticated take on the pastel trend. Add a modern twist with over-sized sun glasses or practical ballet flats to truly emphasise this girly shade. This style is all about being daring with feminine beauty and embracing the true female form; and it’s a good excuse to be overly chic!

The Boyfriend Jean

How is it that they name the most comfortable,  adaptable and stylish pair of jeans after a boyfriend? Maybe because it gives us everything we want in a real boyfriend lol. Besides the cuddles and kisses anyway when these first came out I hated how baggy they looked on me. Then I realized how great they were because I could dress them up with a fitted top and high heel sandals. Sometimes I just wore my high top sneakers and they still worked.

We all have to admit we have a love affair with out jeans and the boyfriend Jean for me is my favorite because I can be adventures.  The versatility they give make dressing up fun and Unrestricted. They flatter with crop tops, get cozy with turtlenecks and the classic white shirt.

They may have been named because of their baggy fit but trust me their this season's trusted go to. My border - line obsession with torn jeans comes through here because even with this pair I needed one that was torn.

Cowards Don't Inherit Kingdoms

So recently I have become an observer, I used to be the girl who would voice out when I felt someones partner was being unjust towards them. I quickly learnt that many don't want you telling them anything negative about their relationship. I think its because it is either they know and choose to over look it or they just plainly do not want an opinion on what they have already made their made up on.

Many make an excuse or say "He loves me but he just has alot going on" or "She was brought up by a single mom so she needs her independence". Why cant we call a thing a thing? Why do many of us both male and female give away the keys to our Kingdoms to cowards who do not deal with themselves?.  I define a coward as a person who knows they have a  problem but choose to avoid facing it, fixing it or working through it. They are so deep into their own denial that they are willing to hurt the people they "love", it is difficult loving someone who has walls up.

You try and break them but its like a war zone. The best thing to do is move on because it doesn't matter what you do, you cannot change them. They have to change on their own, to the women who is emotionally abused you are someones queen. To the brother who suffers through being put down by his woman, the is a queen who is willing to celebrate your manhood. 

We want to commit to people who will end up changing us into bitter people, people who will find negativity in the good of others because we envy them. Your inner man is shouting to be let free of the gated walls he is in, do not let a coward inherit what you have built.

Pretty Hurts

What we see in the mirror does not always satisfy us, is it because we are subjected to what perfection looks like?. Many people blame the media and forget that the people who are around us carry the most influence. Sadly we aren't all born with tough skin, I will admit I am one of those people who is sensitive to what is said to me. Over the years with maturity I have learnt to deal with it better yet I have been the subject to many "Your way too skinny" comments.

I wish i had known then that everyone's definition of beauty is not the same. They may not see you as beautiful but those who see fault are often the ones who have the bigger problem. I still get people telling me that I am too skinny even when I mention I have gained weight. I am not defined by your thoughts of my image what matters is my thoughts. Self hate is the worst kind of hate don't let others make you hate who you are or how you look. Know that many always walk past the treasure because it isn't what society tells them it looks like. Those who look deeper are the ones you want around you and those are the amazing friendships.

We are all flawed.... learn to embrace it because you have to live in your own skin. May as well love the skin you are in because darling it will forever remain. Whichever size you maybe that does not define your beauty, find what true beauty is to you. Be happy with who you are or suffer the emotional bullying given by others.